So you think we should see other people?
By: Angelo Maddox
Are relationships a phase during college? Or can two
people actually meet their freshman year and end up in
a committed long lasting relationship.
Lots of kids
our age feel like relationships are a temporary
arrangement. Something they need to do to gain
experience for what is to come.
These "practice runs"
are set up with only one person’s interest in mind.
You meet the guy (or girl), you play hard to get. You
win them over and then pretend for awhile that it's
going to be happy forever after.
The types of people playing the little games of
relationships in your college scene are endless. But
I've narrowed the field to two. There are the serial
killers. They go from one "friend" to the next but
can't ever be committed to just one person. Always being
able to be in a relationship but playing their field
at the same time. Then we have our hopeless
romantics, forever in love and ever ready to marry.
Never understanding why it didn't work out or thinking
single is the only way. What makes fooling around
with someone else's heart such a fun activity for
people?
Depending on your back ground, it's not a far stretch
to gather that most any one is brought up feeling
committed relationships are like picking up shells on
the beach. You can have just about anyone you want.
All you have to do is walk around long enough, find
something nice to look at. Reach out for it, then throw it out after
you get too busy, uninterested or
find something else. Where is the logic in this
madness? Why don't people our age want to work out
their differences? Is it because there are plenty of
fish in the sea? Forty three percent of colleges introduced their
largest freshmen classes in the fall of 2003.
Having the thought that love will reveal it's self to
you when the time is right seems to be a great idea.
Then you lose all the worry that goes along with
dating, relationships and the friends with benefits
category (if that counts). You never have to give up
yourself or your independence. Independence is most
peoples motive when in or out of relationships. We
either need someone to feel stable and normal, or we
use people to fulfill some inadequacy in our own
personality.
The struggle to feel free
to be your self with another person often can end relationships.
Then
again, it can also begin them. Maybe seeing other people isn't a bad
idea. By doing so you're able to
find someone easier to deal with. But is breaking up the way to deal with
differing views? Could this further
our problems by rearing up in other parts of our life? Or should we
try to understand each other and work out our problems? But why
would we want to do that when it's so much easier to just date someone
else?
Life has gotten extremely easy for many college students in the United
States. We party, have lives
funded by parents, grants or student loans. Go to therapy or take
medication if we feel a little depressed. Dine out for most of our
meals. Have most transportation provided for us. Sleep till
late in the afternoons, have free medical insurance, and rarely
work. What would make one think that our relationships should be any
more difficult?
Since ideals are vague, people aren't sure what they can or can't expect
anymore. With so many kids in our 18-25 year old age group with
divorced parents our concept of marriage is hopeless. Are we really
all the products of superficial lust our parents had in their high school
or college years? Is the romance movies and novels portray so
beautifully actually real? So the next time you think to yourself
that it may be time for you to see other people. Question
your motive and see if you're taking the easy way out.
Written By Angelo Maddox
Rights To Text Purchased By Paul & Party Pursuit
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